This is a list of common TS traits I found in the forums of susans.org. I combined it with some other lists or descriptions of trans people I found. While everyone is obviously different, and this particular list is probably more geared toward those trans people who are closeted/repressed until after puberty, it’s kinda fun to see how you fit the stereotype. Apparently I’m incredibly unoriginal.
Common TS Traits:
- We primarily cope with the condition by shutting down all emotions – YES
- We have an inability to discuss deep feelings with others – NO, if anything the opposite
- We are insecure – YES, I am starved for affirmation
- We have very few, if any, close friends, and prefer to spend time alone – NO, I have more close friends than most people, probably because I’m open about my emotions
- We exhibit extreme shyness at times – YES
- We have a hatred of (and inattention to) our appearance – YES, although this has changed
- We avoid pictures and videos of ourselves – SOMETIMES
- We often have inattention to health issues – YES, although this has also changed
- We have extreme modesty about our sexuality and partial and full nudity – YES, especially now
- We often take on dangerous jobs or activities – NO
- We often have well above average intelligence – YES, or so I’ve been told
- We immerse ourselves in activities or jobs that require intense concentration and highly technical vocations. – YES, film is one of the most demanding/technical professions out there
- We enjoy intense or escapist hobbies such as complex puzzles, video games, highly technical vocations, creative projects, “nerdy” pastimes, roleplaying games – YES, all the above (including game modding, D&D, film editing, inventing card games and board games, collaging, drawing, writing…)
- We are extremely competitive or extremely non-competitive with no middle ground – YES, I used to be extremely (insecurely) competitive when I was still trying to be macho, and now I loath competition
- We are very imaginative daydreamers – YES
- We possess a tolerance for others, very unlikely to be racist, homophobic etc. – YES
- We are anti-war and anti death penalty – YES
- We have the need for more than usual privacy in our lives – YES
- We are very unlikely to fight or have a physical confrontation – I DON’T KNOW
- We have deep seated hatred of authority – YES, rules are made to be broken, although I’ve always attributed this trait to being Sicilian, not to being trans
- We have on and off battles with clinical depression – YES
- We are easily able to place people by the sounds of their voice – YES
- We are able to easily read peoples emotions – YES, when I get out of my head and pay attention
- We excel in reading and writing at an early age but have difficulty with mathematics – YES
- We often have suicidal thoughts, plans or attempts – YES
- We sometimes have a delayed puberty – SORT OF: physically I was ON SCHEDULE, but sexually I was probably a few years behind
- We obsess over informing others about trans issues and changing peoples’ minds on the subject – YES, dear Lord I’m a nuisance!
- We have a sense of detachment, confusion, or being a ‘blank slate’ in childhood – YES
- As children we were often sickly. Before transitioning we struggle with chronic health problems like asthma, bronchitis, acid reflux, ulcers, fatigue, and headaches – YES, all the above except headaches
- We go through a stage of denial in which we become homophobic, transphobic, and/or misogynistic – YES, God forgive me
- We take on masculine/macho professions, or professions where there is a definite glass ceiling for women – YES, philosophy is almost all guys, and the film industry has a really horrible glass ceiling despite the often superior talent of women filmmakers. During the summer I’ve always worked really manly physical jobs like roofing and landscaping.
- We become addicted, absorbed, or professionally tied to computer activities, whether it is online role-playing, blogging, video editing, graphic design, or something related to computer science – YES
- As children we prefer solo-play (books, legos, drawing) to competitive/group activities – YES
- Before coming out, we often think marriage to a woman will cure our dysphoria – YES
- We make many efforts to appear normal – YES
I wonder if there are any trans girls who just don’t fit any of these descriptions. The fact that these characteristics line up so well with my life & personality makes me a believer. Again, obviously everyone is different, but even just talking to other trans people online has made me realize how powerful an effect gender dysphoria has on development. We all have unique personalities that shine through, but we also all seem to have many of the same coping mechanisms up our sleeve.
Just food for thought.
I love lists like this way too much.